http://burdenofgreatness.com/2009/09/27/take-time-to-gloat/ Understanding the restless spirit of driven women Wed, 16 May 2012 23:50:49 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://burdenofgreatness.com/2009/09/27/take-time-to-gloat/comment-page-1/#comment-1101 admin Mon, 28 Sep 2009 16:12:30 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=175#comment-1101 I wonder if you can have both...pride and humility? According to my neuro research, humility is more about suppressing. Pride has positive effects on the brain. If you are confident, then pride is an internal reaction associated with satisfaction and joy. If you are not confident, then pride can slip into an external demonstration of superiority (a lack of confidence leads to comparison and people being either superior or inferior). So I would put pride back on the positive scale and hope it is partnered with and helps to build real confidence. I wonder if you can have both…pride and humility? According to my neuro research, humility is more about suppressing. Pride has positive effects on the brain. If you are confident, then pride is an internal reaction associated with satisfaction and joy. If you are not confident, then pride can slip into an external demonstration of superiority (a lack of confidence leads to comparison and people being either superior or inferior). So I would put pride back on the positive scale and hope it is partnered with and helps to build real confidence.

]]> http://burdenofgreatness.com/2009/09/27/take-time-to-gloat/comment-page-1/#comment-1100 Laurinda Mon, 28 Sep 2009 15:01:23 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=175#comment-1100 Great article and really good comments. I always keep the distinction between humility and pride as follows: Humility is having the confidence to know & say "I am.." and "I have accomplished...". With Humility you always know other can be and do the things you are and do. Whereas Pride is when you start saying "I am ...and it's better than ..."; you start looking down on others. Humility is always rooted in confidence and pride is rooted in insecurity. Great article and really good comments. I always keep the distinction between humility and pride as follows: Humility is having the confidence to know & say “I am..” and “I have accomplished…”. With Humility you always know other can be and do the things you are and do. Whereas Pride is when you start saying “I am …and it’s better than …”; you start looking down on others. Humility is always rooted in confidence and pride is rooted in insecurity.

]]> http://burdenofgreatness.com/2009/09/27/take-time-to-gloat/comment-page-1/#comment-1099 admin Mon, 28 Sep 2009 11:56:46 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=175#comment-1099 I guess the distinction here is the demonstration of pride as an emotion versus pride as an action (and conversation about "me.") Sounds like a good post for the future. I guess the distinction here is the demonstration of pride as an emotion versus pride as an action (and conversation about “me.”) Sounds like a good post for the future.

]]> http://burdenofgreatness.com/2009/09/27/take-time-to-gloat/comment-page-1/#comment-1098 Lee Mon, 28 Sep 2009 06:39:42 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=175#comment-1098 I agree with Karl, and struggle with my conditioning that it's "not good" to strut your stuff. There definitely is a difference between feeling happy for ourselves and the need to feel superior. So in my uncertainty I tend to underplay my victories - also because people are often not particularly interested in them, perhaps due to their own self-insecurity issues. I agree with Karl, and struggle with my conditioning that it’s “not good” to strut your stuff. There definitely is a difference between feeling happy for ourselves and the need to feel superior. So in my uncertainty I tend to underplay my victories – also because people are often not particularly interested in them, perhaps due to their own self-insecurity issues.

]]> http://burdenofgreatness.com/2009/09/27/take-time-to-gloat/comment-page-1/#comment-1097 admin Mon, 28 Sep 2009 01:33:42 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=175#comment-1097 The research did say that we have to watch out not to slip into thinking we are better than anyone else. We should be happy for our wins without falling into narcissistic diatribes or holding our wins over the heads of losers...but none of us would do that, right?!? The research did say that we have to watch out not to slip into thinking we are better than anyone else. We should be happy for our wins without falling into narcissistic diatribes or holding our wins over the heads of losers…but none of us would do that, right?!?

]]> http://burdenofgreatness.com/2009/09/27/take-time-to-gloat/comment-page-1/#comment-1096 Karl Mon, 28 Sep 2009 01:14:39 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=175#comment-1096 Marcia - I enjoy seeing people feel good about themselves when they have accomplished tasks. But I have a real issue when this gloating becomes arrogance. Marcia – I enjoy seeing people feel good about themselves when they have accomplished tasks. But I have a real issue when this gloating becomes arrogance.

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