Comments on: Stopping the leak of power http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/ Understanding the restless spirit of driven women Fri, 03 Sep 2010 10:27:36 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: admin http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1277 admin Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:19:53 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1277 Wise words my friend. It is a fine line to weigh that is often difficult in the moment when emotions trump logic. Thank you sharing the bigger picture and the truth. Wise words my friend. It is a fine line to weigh that is often difficult in the moment when emotions trump logic. Thank you sharing the bigger picture and the truth.

]]> By: Sherry http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1276 Sherry Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:16:28 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1276 The dark side of "give and take" and compromise in any relationship is giving away pieces of yourself. Sometimes these differences are difficult to weigh - particularly until the consequences come to the fore. What is not shown in that clip, but was a prelude to it during the show is an important piece. In this case, Yang was weighing the balance between staying in an intimacy in bed with her man at his bidding, as her pager was going off alerting her to her responsibilities in her work as a doctor on call. Yang reluctantly choose to stay with her man, not very successfully ignoring the page. Later, when she was reprimanded by her superior, the consequences were heavily upon her; and as her lover witnessed the verbal exchange between the two women and came to her "rescue" by taking responsibility for her actions - only making things worse for Yang. As was shown in the clip, it was right for her to tell him squarely, that she had essentially compromised more than she was in integrity with doing and she cannot do that for him - moreover for the sake of her own self respect and love. However, to expect to never give away a piece of yourself in any relationship isn't the nature of relationship in reality. Sacrifice will be called for, but to what level is the boundary. The dark side of “give and take” and compromise in any relationship is giving away pieces of yourself. Sometimes these differences are difficult to weigh – particularly until the consequences come to the fore. What is not shown in that clip, but was a prelude to it during the show is an important piece. In this case, Yang was weighing the balance between staying in an intimacy in bed with her man at his bidding, as her pager was going off alerting her to her responsibilities in her work as a doctor on call. Yang reluctantly choose to stay with her man, not very successfully ignoring the page. Later, when she was reprimanded by her superior, the consequences were heavily upon her; and as her lover witnessed the verbal exchange between the two women and came to her “rescue” by taking responsibility for her actions – only making things worse for Yang. As was shown in the clip, it was right for her to tell him squarely, that she had essentially compromised more than she was in integrity with doing and she cannot do that for him – moreover for the sake of her own self respect and love. However, to expect to never give away a piece of yourself in any relationship isn’t the nature of relationship in reality. Sacrifice will be called for, but to what level is the boundary.

]]> By: Mo Bailey http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1274 Mo Bailey Sat, 06 Feb 2010 17:36:44 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1274 Yes M Myers, women are likely just as capable of this with men (who let them), yet I fear regardless of our gender, it is a prevalent issue (admittedly one that hit me over the head years ago that still reveals moments of testing). Yet what growth opportunity when it is recognized today - the choice it gives us to do something with our self revelations. Marcia - thank you soooo much. This is a wonderful visual that explains this dilemma so well. I can't wait to see your book as you always target such genius otherwise so rarely uncovered! Mo Bailey Yes M Myers, women are likely just as capable of this with men (who let them), yet I fear regardless of our gender, it is a prevalent issue (admittedly one that hit me over the head years ago that still reveals moments of testing). Yet what growth opportunity when it is recognized today – the choice it gives us to do something with our self revelations.

Marcia – thank you soooo much. This is a wonderful visual that explains this dilemma so well. I can’t wait to see your book as you always target such genius otherwise so rarely uncovered!

Mo Bailey

]]> By: M Myers http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1273 M Myers Sat, 06 Feb 2010 16:17:49 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1273 Wow, poignant clip and how great that you are able to post it for us - great use of technology! The clip scared me into wanting to make sure I do not do this to anyone myself. I think women may be just as capable of trying to force change or taking bits and pieces from their partners. Just food for thought. Wow, poignant clip and how great that you are able to post it for us – great use of technology! The clip scared me into wanting to make sure I do not do this to anyone myself. I think women may be just as capable of trying to force change or taking bits and pieces from their partners. Just food for thought.

]]> By: admin http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1271 admin Sat, 06 Feb 2010 13:59:00 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1271 Yes, it's an awakening and a wonderful evolution. Yes, it’s an awakening and a wonderful evolution.

]]> By: Jean Buschke http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1270 Jean Buschke Sat, 06 Feb 2010 13:53:37 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1270 It almost appears that there is a cosmic awaking of women saying..."Where did I go before? I am back now and I will not be going away again!" The journey back...while painful...ends up in the light! At least that is what I am finding. It almost appears that there is a cosmic awaking of women saying…”Where did I go before? I am back now and I will not be going away again!” The journey back…while painful…ends up in the light! At least that is what I am finding.

]]> By: admin http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1268 admin Sat, 06 Feb 2010 13:09:52 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1268 The link is http://abc.go.com/watch/clip/greys-anatomy/SH007322830000/16493/250281?&clipId=250281&playlistId=16493 There is a short commercial first. Suzanne, you are so right. We have such difficulty actually seeing how we give ourselves away until after we have done it. Even our overachieving habits include unreasonable sacrifice. We have to support each other with this awareness. The link is http://abc.go.com/watch/clip/greys-anatomy/SH007322830000/16493/250281?&clipId=250281&playlistId=16493

There is a short commercial first.

Suzanne, you are so right. We have such difficulty actually seeing how we give ourselves away until after we have done it. Even our overachieving habits include unreasonable sacrifice. We have to support each other with this awareness.

]]> By: Lisa http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1265 Lisa Sat, 06 Feb 2010 07:18:02 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1265 where is the 2 minute video??? where is the 2 minute video???

]]> By: Suzanne Holman http://burdenofgreatness.com/2010/02/05/stopping-the-leak-of-power/comment-page-1/#comment-1264 Suzanne Holman Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:58:45 +0000 http://burdenofgreatness.com/?p=314#comment-1264 Marcia, love this post and the video clip from Grey's.... This issue is SO huge in my life and I know for many other women. Why does it take us so long to "get it"? It is amazing how strong our conditioning is to please others... And how difficult it can be to see clearly just who we are. Marcia, love this post and the video clip from Grey’s….
This issue is SO huge in my life and I know for many other women. Why does it take us so long to “get it”?
It is amazing how strong our conditioning is to please others…
And how difficult it can be to see clearly just who we are.

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